Looking after yourself and yourself

When you ‘spiritually aware’ it’s important to remember that you’re not just looking after your body. By the body I mean the body you were given in this lifetime but equally as important is to take care of your soul, the inner part of you.

Recently I have been more obsessed with finding things to keep my body satisfied; eating healthy, exercising, trying to find classes to keep me busy but what I haven’t been doing is looking for things that satisfy the soul.

How can you satisfy the soul?

Good question, being aware of it is a good start, its so easy to get caught up by the role you are playing and completely ignore that something else also needs some TLC. Get outside, spend some time with nature. Meditation is a another necessity, connecting with your inner self, trying to be at one with it, hearing it when it speaks to you. I often use this particular meditation to help me separate myself. Have a go and let me know what you think!


Living the Robot Life

If you follow this blog, you know the writing isn’t constant, it often returns when something doesn’t feel quite right. Just now is one of those times!

I’ve been feeling more emotional and delicate (always a sign) than normal and I have known there is something wrong but literally didn’t have a chance to put my finger on it…till today.

Life has become so busy that its hard to find the time to stop and think and reflect and somehow I have become very disconnected, lack of ‘me time’ really takes its toll but we just don’t realise it.

Many of us go from day to day without even a second to reflect on how we are feeling and why, reflection is a necessity!

Sometimes that reaction that you can’t explain is the result of more than just ‘a bad day’, something far deeper than you realise, the tears, raised voice, irritation is actually a cry for help, your soul saying ‘stop and pay some attention to me’.

Today I paid attention, summers are always intense and with things getting done at home and having to run between 2 cities, the death of a grandparent and not really having a proper break as well as constantly doing something and barely having a second to sit down let alone time to think, it all became too much, I was living the life of a robot and thats not good for anyone, especially someone like me who knows how important it is to have time to myself,  what I also hadn’t realise is how much I had struggled to adjust to my new life, I plod along every day just doing what I have to do, a bit like a Robot – the daily chores, the monotonous routine and having to take care of a house, you realise how easy you had it before and you often wish for those days but the reality is, you have to live the life you choose and this was my choice, the fact I am aware of what I am feeling is a massive achievement, as we all know, awareness is the beginning!

I now know where my problem lies and if I want to move away from the Robot Life and find my happiness again,  its for me to find solutions, communication is key when your feeling this kind of distance and it was talking with the other half and a friend who made me discuss how I can move forward from these uneasy feelings…So a few recommendations for myself (and others if they can relate to me)

  • Meditate more – Get closer to my soul – Reconnect!
  • Find more me time – Remember the things that make me happy and do them.
  • Don’t be so hard on myself – I don’t have to do everything just now, there is no rush – this is probably one of my biggest challenges.
  • Breathe – And be grateful for my breath, I am so lucky to be alive. I must keep remembering this.
  • Find domestic help – Get some help so I can find more time to do the things I want to do.
  • Reflect often – This will avoid me getting to this point again or worse still getting to a worse point.

One last note to myself…everything is always going to be ok so don’t worry or stress about anything!

Your journey has begun…

If you’re reading this now, its probably because your journey has already started, its because you have started to ask more questions and seek new answers, it might even be because you’re not happy with the way things are or because you know there is more out there. Don’t expect everything to make sense at once, this time is hard and confusing. The realisation that there is more than whats on the surface is not something we have been conditioned to believe, so at times it’s going to be frustrating but when you get it, when you understand, when you accept, well thats when it will be worth the wait.

I can’t say I am there yet but somedays, I feel a lot closer and most importantly, I feel more aware of it, so like I tell myself, I am telling you the same thing, have a little patience. It will all make sense soon enough.

Dealing with different views and beliefs

Everyone’s views and beliefs are different and this is something we all need to understand and learn to accept including me. When someone else doesn’t agree with what we say, it’s the egos automatic response to get defensive, feeling the need to protect your viewpoints but this leaves a sour feeling especially if it results in saying something you wish you didn’t, so how can we avoid this situation? Well these are my suggestions:

  1. Remember you are ultimately a peaceful being so getting angry isn’t your true nature
  2. Take a deep breathe and remember that everyone is entitled to their own views
  3. Let it go, you don’t always need to be right, if you were, how would you ever learn?
  4. Write down what you’re feeling and reflect on it. Is it really worth pondering over? Probably not!
  5. Meditate and connect with your inner being, this is a good way to focus on whats really important
  6. Finally remember you are a soul having a human experience. I am a soul. I am peace. I am love. I am joy



What is faith?

Faith is the feeling that is unexplainable, it is a feeling that even though it doesn’t seem like it, even though there is no evidence to prove it, somehow you just know everything is going to work out ok.

Faith is what keeps you going, it’s a light that shines in complete darkness, it’s a belief that you need to hold onto when things aren’t going as planned and faith is something that more of us need to have more trust in…

Note to self. Have more faith!


Changing your mind set

When you have mostly always lived in a big city, you get so used to the activity, buzz and energy of the city life.

Moving to an island 8 years ago in my 20s didn’t really change my mind set, I was younger and probably a lot more accepting and maybe somewhat unaware of life in general, I never really reflected on how different it was to the city life, thinking about the details.

Now moving to a smaller city in my 30s, my outlook is so different, it’s taken me a little while to settle in and find my feet, it’s a quieter life, thats a lot more relaxed and dare I say it…simple. This word is hard to say out loud because one thing I am not, is simple.

Anyway, having time to myself has forced me to think more and I have started to use this term ‘living in a bubble’, living in a big city, it is so easy to get absorbed in its size, feeling completely mistaken that this is how it must be everywhere but this would be the wrong way of thinking and somewhat naive. I was ‘living in a bubble’. This naivety has effected me in quite a unique way, after adjusting to the pace of life, the next hurdle was finding a job which I am still working on. Along this journey, there are  a few things that I have started to understand.

So what’s different?

  1. Things move slower but of course they will because thats what its like in a smaller place and that’s ok.
  2. Rejection. Your not going to be right for every position and I am proud to say I have accepted this in a positive way.
  3. Embracing having time -I am starting to find new things to do that I have never thought to do before, another positive.
  4. Conserve your precious energy. Your energy is precious, you DO NOT need to share all your energy with everyone.

I have only mentioned a few things that have changed but the point of this post is, sometimes, you just have to change your mind set, if you can’t change your circumstances, all you can do is go with the flow, I strongly believe you can make things happen wherever you are, it just involves putting in a little more effort and that can’t be a bad thing.

Lost and Found – The story of a soul

In a previous blog post, I asked ‘Why do we move so far away from our true nature?’ and I explained how we have been conditioned, I didn’t go into too much detail, leaving it quite an abstract concept but I found a video that explains the journey of the soul beautifully, this has helped to define my beliefs and to me explains why we distance ourselves from who we really are and how it happens. I would like to share this video with you. Unless you believe in the Brahma Kumaris, the video will only make sense till 5:48 seconds which I think is more than enough to understand this idea.

Please do watch and share your thoughts, I would love to hear them!