Dealing with different views and beliefs

Everyone’s views and beliefs are different and this is something we all need to understand and learn to accept including me. When someone else doesn’t agree with what we say, it’s the egos automatic response to get defensive, feeling the need to protect your viewpoints but this leaves a sour feeling especially if it results in saying something you wish you didn’t, so how can we avoid this situation? Well these are my suggestions:

  1. Remember you are ultimately a peaceful being so getting angry isn’t your true nature
  2. Take a deep breathe and remember that everyone is entitled to their own views
  3. Let it go, you don’t always need to be right, if you were, how would you ever learn?
  4. Write down what you’re feeling and reflect on it. Is it really worth pondering over? Probably not!
  5. Meditate and connect with your inner being, this is a good way to focus on whats really important
  6. Finally remember you are a soul having a human experience. I am a soul. I am peace. I am love. I am joy




What is faith?

Faith is the feeling that is unexplainable, it is a feeling that even though it doesn’t seem like it, even though there is no evidence to prove it, somehow you just know everything is going to work out ok.

Faith is what keeps you going, it’s a light that shines in complete darkness, it’s a belief that you need to hold onto when things aren’t going as planned and faith is something that more of us need to have more trust in…

Note to self. Have more faith!


Changing your mind set

When you have mostly always lived in a big city, you get so used to the activity, buzz and energy of the city life.

Moving to an island 8 years ago in my 20s didn’t really change my mind set, I was younger and probably a lot more accepting and maybe somewhat unaware of life in general, I never really reflected on how different it was to the city life, thinking about the details.

Now moving to a smaller city in my 30s, my outlook is so different, it’s taken me a little while to settle in and find my feet, it’s a quieter life, thats a lot more relaxed and dare I say it…simple. This word is hard to say out loud because one thing I am not, is simple.

Anyway, having time to myself has forced me to think more and I have started to use this term ‘living in a bubble’, living in a big city, it is so easy to get absorbed in its size, feeling completely mistaken that this is how it must be everywhere but this would be the wrong way of thinking and somewhat naive. I was ‘living in a bubble’. This naivety has effected me in quite a unique way, after adjusting to the pace of life, the next hurdle was finding a job which I am still working on. Along this journey, there are  a few things that I have started to understand.

So what’s different?

  1. Things move slower but of course they will because thats what its like in a smaller place and that’s ok.
  2. Rejection. Your not going to be right for every position and I am proud to say I have accepted this in a positive way.
  3. Embracing having time -I am starting to find new things to do that I have never thought to do before, another positive.
  4. Conserve your precious energy. Your energy is precious, you DO NOT need to share all your energy with everyone.

I have only mentioned a few things that have changed but the point of this post is, sometimes, you just have to change your mind set, if you can’t change your circumstances, all you can do is go with the flow, I strongly believe you can make things happen wherever you are, it just involves putting in a little more effort and that can’t be a bad thing.

Lost and Found – The story of a soul

In a previous blog post, I asked ‘Why do we move so far away from our true nature?’ and I explained how we have been conditioned, I didn’t go into too much detail, leaving it quite an abstract concept but I found a video that explains the journey of the soul beautifully, this has helped to define my beliefs and to me explains why we distance ourselves from who we really are and how it happens. I would like to share this video with you. Unless you believe in the Brahma Kumaris, the video will only make sense till 5:48 seconds which I think is more than enough to understand this idea.

Please do watch and share your thoughts, I would love to hear them!

Meditation Resources for beginners

I have been meditating religiously twice a day for sometime now, I can’t say it always works but having a little routine daily practice is really good for me and my state of mind.

Meditation isn’t easy, I remember thinking, how are you supposed to just clear your mind, why can’t my mind switch off, why does that song keep playing in my head, am I doing it right, how do I do it right and many many more questions that I am sure you can relate to. I think I have previously shared one resource here that I use but I having a short attention span and the need to nourish my mind, I am always on the search for more, so I have found another that I would love to share with you, it’s a little less intense and I have to say quite uplifting.

I have been listening to the series ‘You have 4 minutes to change your life’ by Rebekah Borucki for the past few weeks and I am thoroughly enjoying it, here is one from her episodes for finding Inner Peace. Have a listen and let me know what you think…

Visit Rebekah’s Blog Bexlife here.

Everything is going to be okay…

Some days are great, some days are good and some days are bad, so when I stumbled across this quote, it gave me a sense of peace because no matter how bad things are, everything is going to be okay!


Why do we move so far away from our true nature?

I have been studying spirituality for some time now, I started this journey after a loss I experienced some years ago, when we are so attached to our identity, when that identity gets hurt in someway, it makes us question everything and this is what happened to me.

Anyway, I am now at the point in life where I understand that I am more than just my name, there is something deeper that lives within us all and that is from what I believe; the soul. The souls is purely light and the souls true nature is made not of materialistic things, like cars, big houses, fancy watches but simply of love, joy, peace and truth. Now my question is, if this is the true nature of all us human beings, why and how do we move so far away from it, why do we get so obsessed with the physical things that in reality, just don’t mean much, now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying they are not important because obviously, without them, it would be pretty hard to live but all I am saying is why is there so much importance placed on them. Well, it’s because of conditioning. We have been conditioned by society, the media, people we meet that we need all these things to have a better/happier life but let me tell you, it’s not going to make you happy, if anything, they are going to make you question your happiness.

Last night before bed, I searched though all the papers in my journal, my routine for the last few months has been to get into bed and meditate but in the last month, this hasn’t really helped my sporadic sleeping habits, so I thought I would try something different. I read an extract that must have resonated because for the first time in a long time, I actually got a decent nights sleep. The extract was coupled with repeating the words I am peace, without realising, I had become unconscious, I had become distant from this memory of who I really am, just like all those who have forgotten their true nature, so had I. I want to share what I read with you all, consider it a little bit of wisdom from the beyond, not me, something higher that is always there looking out for us…if we allow it too.

“When we think the five senses of touch, sound, sight , taste and smell are our only source of experience we begin to rely on external things for our happiness and peace. Food, music, films and cars for instance, give us pleasure and make us happy. However in the physical world, everything changes and comes to an end. And when those sensual pleasures end, we become unhappy and peaceless. We desire more and a never ending queue of desires follows, and we becomes dependant on external stimulus. Our moods go up and down, conditioned by how satisfied our physical senses are. And when we don’t get what we want, we get angry, and that anger can lead to violence. And even when we do get what we want, we want more, so we become greedy. Or we show off what we have got and we develop ego. All these things make us feel powerless and unhappy, feeling OK one minute and not OK the next.”

“Instead, be aware of yourself as a soul, a conscious eternal being; a point of energy with no physical identity. This resolves all conflict within ourselves we cease to identify with all those labels…This realisation of your true identity as a soul is thus the key to experiencing your real nature peace and happiness. This is the key to understanding yourself.” 

How attached are you to your identity?