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What do you want?

On a recent trip abroad, I sat with a friend who had been through a break up. What was it about her that made her so special? I asked. And to my surprise one of the things he said was ‘she made me a good home made meal’ but anyone would do that for you right? Well it seems not, sometimes all we really want in life is the simple things, especially as age catches up with us.

It’s funny, sometimes we are quick to forget to think about what we really want and we settle for something that’s so far from the truth. Being a really relaxed person who is used to putting others first, it’s easy to forget about your own needs. It becomes the norm to always think about how you can please others and that’s all you begin to know. However, one day, like me, you’ll meet someone who cares enough to ask ‘but what about you, what do you want?’ Who would have thought this would be such a difficult question to answer but it is. I was posed with this question last week and I had no idea what to say. That’s what inspired me to write this post because I am sure I’m not the only one that’s in this position.

What is the solution?
Be a little selfish, there is nothing wrong with being selfish once in a while, put yourself first, think about what you want and what your needs are. Why? Because in the long run it will help; help to define you, help to clarify what you want and most importantly help to ensure you don’t ever feel any resentment towards others.

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Accept how people see you…

The way you see yourself is not always the way others see you. Ask your closest friends to describe you in 5 words and see how different it is compared to how you would describe yourself. We are often too hard on ourselves, we criticise our traits and complain about our faults but why can’t we for once see ourselves through someone else’s eyes.

Earlier this week, I had the great pleasure of sitting with a friend whom I hadn’t seen for many years. As I shared stories of my life and she laughed whole heartedly, one thing she said really resonated ‘Being with you always makes me so happy’. To know despite all my flaws that I could create that reaction was a true gift and it sure isn’t the first time I have heard that!

So today’s post is a reminder that you will make some people very happy just by being you, because they can see you on the inside, even if you don’t see it yourself, accept how people see you…

Lessons Learnt – Day 2

It’s the 2nd day of 2015 and there are 4 things I have already learnt:

1. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

2. Be careful what you wish for.

3. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

4. There is no point dwelling on things that can’t be changed.

These are things that we probably all know but need to be reminded of in order to grow spiritually.

Share with us, What lessons have you already learnt?

 

 

Things in life that resonate…

It’s been such a long time, considering I always complain about being neglected, even if someone doesn’t talk to me for a few hours, this is more like abandonment, so I am sorry.

I hate that work get’s in the way of what you really love but everyone has to make a living hey.

A few things have resonated with me over the past few months, things that help me get through the day, things I would like to share with you:

– Live for the moment, it’s much more easier to manage
– Expect nothing, then everything you get is a bonus
– You are wonderful and amazing and special, you will always be wonderful and amazing and special
– Sometimes you feel sad, feeling sad is ok. Sadness goes away.
– Be aware of your feelings, it will help you to be in control of them.
– Things will keep changing, change is good, be open to it.
– Go with the flow, surrender and be open to everything that comes your way.Don’t force something that is not meant to be.
– Everything is exactly the way it is supposed to be.
– Be grateful, every single day!

Till we speak again.

Crying for no reason…

Ever sat in front of the TV and without meaning to found yourself crying for absolutely no reason? Well if you haven’t, I can tell you it is very normal…there was even a song recently written about it…

Have you ever wondered where these tears come from? Well, ask yourself when they come and what triggers them, the answer might lie in this…I believe this is the response of your soul yearning for something from deep inside…perhaps it is a cry for help, to be listened to.

My crying for no reason seems to appear during movies, the feeling of loneliness or weddings, so I am starting to understand there is a real connection to love and romance.

Now I have decided, being only a shell, a keeper for the inner soul, it is my duty to ensure my soul is always satisfied…this is going to be an interesting journey I can tell you that…

I am sure we would all love to hear about your souls desires…so please do share…

 

25 Fundamental Rules for life…

Yesterday, on a long drive, a friend and I discussed happiness, she asked me ‘How can we re-live the happiness we had as children’.

This got me thinking, as you grow older and you start to experience more, think more and live more, you take on the weight of the world, so how can you go back to that innocent state that seems like a distant memory.

If I had children, I would try my hardest to instil some fundamental rules for life, rules that they could live by and rules that I hope they could recall again and again in later life, especially when things got challenging…

Here are my 25 Fundamental Rules for Life…

1. There is no reason to stress or worry about anything, everything will always be ok because it has to be, there are never any voids

2. Be a good person, be kind, generous, loving, loyal and most importantly, always do what’s right by man kind.

3. It’s ok to make mistakes, as long as you learn from them, life is about learning.

4. Everything is exactly how it should be, you don’t always need to find reasons or question outcomes.

5. If you want true inner peace, surrender completely, trust the universe and your master.

6. Ultimately, we are all one, one big spiritual family, don’t be angry or upset at those who hurt or betray you, they are there to teach you important lessons and you chose them to teach you these lessons.

7. All you can do is give your all, 100% effort and leave the rest to whatever is out there to guide you and help you find your way.

8. Breathe, raise your vibrations by breathing, this will always keep you aligned with the universe and your master.

9. Life is short, enjoy it, live each day like it’s your last, live it to the fullest.

10.Be yourself always, don’t let someone or something change who you are deep down, if you think you’re loosing yourself, do whatever it takes to find yourself again. Remember what your values are and what’s important to you.

11. The past has gone and the future hasn’t come yet, so focus on the now, this moment.

12. You can only control yourself, not others and their reactions, so always focus on you.

13. If you are still alive, you have a purpose, find your purpose, explore all avenues till you find your reason for being here.

14. There are a lot of negative people out there, if someone affects your inner peace, let them go. Negative people are this way because they can’t let go and move on, they hold on to hurt and pain. You don’t have to be this way.

15. The only thing that is constant is change, things will keep changing but that’s ok, embrace it. Change is good.

16. We all have free will and we can all make our own choices in life, this will determine which path we end up on. There are many different paths mapped out for us.

17. Practice meditation and relax, learn to relax, to switch off and be at peace. Find peace within yourself.All the answers you need are within you.

18. Ultimately, your are just a body, a frame that holds your soul, if your soul yearns something, make sure your satisfy the cravings.

19. Remember death doesn’t exist, the soul just moves to a new body, a new frame, to learn new lessons.

20. Don’t judge people by who they are on the outside because that doesn’t matter, what matters is who they are inside. If you find yourself judging, just say to yourself ‘I shouldn’t judge because I don’t know their story’

21. Be grateful…again and again and again. As long as your always grateful, you will always be happy. Also always be positive, ¬†even at the most challenging times, it will get you where you want to be faster…

22. Have no expectations, then you will never be disappointed. Give because you want to from the bottom of your heart, not because you expect something back in return.

23. Time is the best healer, everything will be better after a little bit of time.

24. Only surround yourself by people who make you feel good about yourself, people who make you smile, value and appreciate you, let you be you. If there is that niggling feeling that something is just not right, it probably isn’t. Don’t doubt your gut feeling.

25. Always love and respect yourself, be your own best friend, put you first, at the end of the day, you are the most important person to you.

There might be some that you would like to add and we would all love to hear them…also let us know your favourites…we are all one remember :)

 

Boosting your confidence…Quick Pick Me Up

It’s funny how you can be perfectly fine one minute and then so low another. Whilst in this state last week, I literally stumbled across a video that I would like to share with you.

Working on yourself to change who you are, to make you more positive and optimistic is an ongoing battle or that’s what I feels like, don’t expect to be able to pick yourself up instantly, it’s ok to get some help and I hope the below helps you as much as it helped me…