Crying for no reason…

Ever sat in front of the TV and without meaning to found yourself crying for absolutely no reason? Well if you haven’t, I can tell you it is very normal…there was even a song recently written about it…

Have you ever wondered where these tears come from? Well, ask yourself when they come and what triggers them, the answer might lie in this…I believe this is the response of your soul yearning for something from deep inside…perhaps it is a cry for help, to be listened to.

My crying for no reason seems to appear during movies, the feeling of loneliness or weddings, so I am starting to understand there is a real connection to love and romance.

Now I have decided, being only a shell, a keeper for the inner soul, it is my duty to ensure my soul is always satisfied…this is going to be an interesting journey I can tell you that…

I am sure we would all love to hear about your souls desires…so please do share…

 

25 Fundamental Rules for life…

Yesterday, on a long drive, a friend and I discussed happiness, she asked me ‘How can we re-live the happiness we had as children’.

This got me thinking, as you grow older and you start to experience more, think more and live more, you take on the weight of the world, so how can you go back to that innocent state that seems like a distant memory.

If I had children, I would try my hardest to instil some fundamental rules for life, rules that they could live by and rules that I hope they could recall again and again in later life, especially when things got challenging…

Here are my 25 Fundamental Rules for Life…

1. There is no reason to stress or worry about anything, everything will always be ok because it has to be, there are never any voids

2. Be a good person, be kind, generous, loving, loyal and most importantly, always do what’s right by man kind.

3. It’s ok to make mistakes, as long as you learn from them, life is about learning.

4. Everything is exactly how it should be, you don’t always need to find reasons or question outcomes.

5. If you want true inner peace, surrender completely, trust the universe and your master.

6. Ultimately, we are all one, one big spiritual family, don’t be angry or upset at those who hurt or betray you, they are there to teach you important lessons and you chose them to teach you these lessons.

7. All you can do is give your all, 100% effort and leave the rest to whatever is out there to guide you and help you find your way.

8. Breathe, raise your vibrations by breathing, this will always keep you aligned with the universe and your master.

9. Life is short, enjoy it, live each day like it’s your last, live it to the fullest.

10.Be yourself always, don’t let someone or something change who you are deep down, if you think you’re loosing yourself, do whatever it takes to find yourself again. Remember what your values are and what’s important to you.

11. The past has gone and the future hasn’t come yet, so focus on the now, this moment.

12. You can only control yourself, not others and their reactions, so always focus on you.

13. If you are still alive, you have a purpose, find your purpose, explore all avenues till you find your reason for being here.

14. There are a lot of negative people out there, if someone affects your inner peace, let them go. Negative people are this way because they can’t let go and move on, they hold on to hurt and pain. You don’t have to be this way.

15. The only thing that is constant is change, things will keep changing but that’s ok, embrace it. Change is good.

16. We all have free will and we can all make our own choices in life, this will determine which path we end up on. There are many different paths mapped out for us.

17. Practice meditation and relax, learn to relax, to switch off and be at peace. Find peace within yourself.All the answers you need are within you.

18. Ultimately, your are just a body, a frame that holds your soul, if your soul yearns something, make sure your satisfy the cravings.

19. Remember death doesn’t exist, the soul just moves to a new body, a new frame, to learn new lessons.

20. Don’t judge people by who they are on the outside because that doesn’t matter, what matters is who they are inside. If you find yourself judging, just say to yourself ‘I shouldn’t judge because I don’t know their story’

21. Be grateful…again and again and again. As long as your always grateful, you will always be happy. Also always be positive,  even at the most challenging times, it will get you where you want to be faster…

22. Have no expectations, then you will never be disappointed. Give because you want to from the bottom of your heart, not because you expect something back in return.

23. Time is the best healer, everything will be better after a little bit of time.

24. Only surround yourself by people who make you feel good about yourself, people who make you smile, value and appreciate you, let you be you. If there is that niggling feeling that something is just not right, it probably isn’t. Don’t doubt your gut feeling.

25. Always love and respect yourself, be your own best friend, put you first, at the end of the day, you are the most important person to you.

There might be some that you would like to add and we would all love to hear them…also let us know your favourites…we are all one remember :)

 

Boosting your confidence…Quick Pick Me Up

It’s funny how you can be perfectly fine one minute and then so low another. Whilst in this state last week, I literally stumbled across a video that I would like to share with you.

Working on yourself to change who you are, to make you more positive and optimistic is an ongoing battle or that’s what I feels like, don’t expect to be able to pick yourself up instantly, it’s ok to get some help and I hope the below helps you as much as it helped me…

I read this and loved sooo much of it, I had to share it with all you lovely people…

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

Here are a few of my favs…

#1. Stop spending time with the wrong people.

#5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not.

#10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness

Happy Reading x

Positive Mistakes

I feel like we have been conditioned to think that making mistakes is a bad thing, I remember the feeling of failure at school when you got things wrong and the dread that followed when you had to share this information with others.

No, I am not saying that making mistakes is something that you should do on purpose but what I am trying to say is that it is ok to make mistakes because in the long run, they will help you to grow but only if you learn from them, therefore it should be seen as a positive rather then a negative. 

So next time you do something wrong, take some time to think about what you have learnt from it, how it could make you grow and why you shouldn’t repeat it…

 

 

A tip for living in the moment…

Living for the day is really hard when your used to dwelling on yesterday and worrying about tomorrow unless you start thinking that yesterday and tomorrow don’t exist and there is only today. This is what they call living for the moment. It is an on going challenge being in this state of mind but we must keep trying, if we can adopt this way of living, we will learn to appreciate every second, constantly being grateful for what ever comes our way…

 

 

 

Saying goodbye…

When it’s your choice…
You have made a decision to  let something or someone go because you know it was the best thing for you, sometimes people are heavy in your life,  they repeatedly upset you, make you sad and bring you pain, so letting them go is easy and makes sense.

When it’s not your choice…
It becomes harder when the decision isn’t yours, when you are forced to let people go but you have to be selfless because you know it’s the best thing for them…once in a while they enter your mind and everything floods back. I don’t believe in having any regrets but what is the best way to cope with this?

Your Guide to Surviving the Pain
- Remember the good times, one thing that you will never lose is your memories, they are yours to keep forever, so reflect on them
- Don’t have any regrets – You did what you did because it was the right thing to do – be proud of yourself for your selfless attitude
- Be grateful – I can’t tell you how important this is, you need to be grateful for everything you have now, the past has gone.
- Keep cutting that cord – You made the decision, accept it and cut that spiritual cord. This is something a friend talked me through and I keep practicing it because I can tell you it works.

Cutting the cord – The Process
1. Close your eyes, take 2 or 3 deep breaths, in through your nose and out of your mouth.
2. Now imagine that person in front of you, they can be close by or far in the distance (Mine are always far away).
3. Imagine a cord that runs from your belly button to theirs, it is what is keeping you connected.
4. Now imagine you are holding a pair of scissors, take the scissors and cut that cord, break the attachment.

Now don’t expect miracles to happen over night, it may take quite a few try’s to let it go but keep repeating the process till you feel you have set yourself free.

The Final Word – Time heals everything…